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I've hosted dinner parties for celebrities, ranging from the sexy chocolate Idris Elba to the charmingly, unpredictable Solange. As the creator of Dinner With Bevy, a unique service that hosts one-of-a-kind dinner parties for marquee names, it's my job to create festive and chic environments where celebs can enjoy themselves and make valuable business and press contacts. Through my work, I've learned quite a bit about the art of throwing a perfect dinner party. It's not rocket science, especially if you follow a few simple guidelines.

Some people think that hosting a dinner party is difficult and are often intimidated at the thought of it. Clients have even asked for a cocktail party instead. Cocktail events are nice, but if you want to connect people, there's nothing better than breaking bread with a person to foster a relationship. Some of you might be thinking it sounds "bourgie," but it doesn't have to be. I've had dinners morph into dance parties with Sanaa Lathan leading a Michael Jackson sing-a-long or a top editor "winding" with Ashanti to reggae! The evening starts with you, the host. You set the tone for the night and are responsible for how it will be remembered! No matter how delicious the food, plentiful the drink or gorgeous the decor, it's the fellow guests who will cause people to rave about a successful dinner party.

Hosts often make the mistake of creating a guest list from their same group of friends... BORING! I don't want to see the same crowd at every event, do you? Use the dinner as a platform to create new friendships; feel free to mix it up. Seat a doctor next to an entertainment executive. Who knows? The next Dr. Oz could spawn from your dinner.

Once you have your guest list, decide the ambiance you want. If your idea of a good time is champagne and a slow groove, then you should offer your arrivals a flute at the door, with Sade playing in the background. If you're like me -- a gal who never met a cocktail she didn't like and is always willing to accept the challenge of "how low can you go" -- a pitcher of lychee martinis and thumping base shouts "welcome!" Ultimately, you want your guests to be greeted by the mood of the get-together. Are we partying like rock stars or tapping into our grown and sexy attitude?

Another common misconception about dinner parties is that they are always expensive. They can be, but there are creative ways to cut costs. Instead of a full bar, offer a signature cocktail. For decor, nothing makes a room look more chic and welcoming than the glow of votive candles in simple holders. Floral arrangements for the table don't have to be an extravaganza of calla lilies; small bunches of daises from the bodega say "spring affair!"

Food should be your largest expense at a dinner party, but don't feel pressured to serve surf and turf with a caviar appetizer. Instead, why not create a menu centered on food from your neighborhood; most people enjoy a glimpse into other people's cultures. What's normal cuisine for you may be an exotic dish for your guests. As a Harlem girl, I've served chicken and waffles to some of my chicest guests to rave reviews!

Just remember that what truly makes a dinner party memorable is a jovial and calm host. Running around too frazzled to chat with those in attendance is a surefire way of making them want to leave! No one wants to be in their host's way, so make sure that you speak with each of your guests and express how happy you are that they attended.

Bevy Smith is the creater of Dinner With Bevy -- a unique party-planning and hosting service for celebrities. She is also a fashion and lifestyle correspondent for TVOne and BET and a writer whose work has appeared in Paper, Interview and Glamour.

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