How to Duck A Suckah

By Felicia Pride

Former pimp Big Boom is back. You might remember learning about him on More Than Words when I blogged about his relationship book, If You Want Closure in Your Relationship Start with Your Legs.

Well the self-proclaimed "Bodyguard to Women's Hearts" is once again offering uncensored advice in his new book How to Duck a Suckah: A Guide to Living a Drama-Free Life. He says, "Men are always looking for something to catch or shoot and if you aren't careful you will be his next target." Big Boom is now married, has found God, and is on a crusade to show women how to avoid "no good men" and stop being "sitting ducks."

According to Big Boom, recognizing a suckah is the first step in avoiding heartbreak. The Suckahs' Club includes:

The Preacher-Type Suckah
The Long-Distance Suckah
The Midnight Star Suckah
The No Satisfaction Suckah
The Down Low Suckah (The Worst Suckah of them all)

Know any of these characters?

How to Duck a Suckah (is it me or is the title hilarious?) also tackles subjects such as STDs, having sex too early, confusing sex with love, and signs of a cheater and abusive relationships. Because of Big Boom's newfound faith, he also tries to gear women toward who he believes is the right man--God.

Here are "Ten Fatal Mistakes That Women Make With Their Men" according to Big Boom. In the past, I've made a few of the "mistakes" on the list. What about you? And do you think Big Boom is on point with his advice or is he full of it?

1) Having Sex Too Early
"By having sex too early, you use the leverage and the understanding that you have to make him appreciate you better and to be genuinely concerned about you. To most men, you've already given the best part, because that is all they came for. Just remember that the beginning of love always starts off as a game."

2) Misunderstandings
"When you think he loves you, and he loves you not. All he wants to do is make love to you. He already knows that he didn't come to stay, and you will soon find out that you were just in the way."

3) Overtalking
"Why would you tell him everything about you, when you know nothing about him??? When it comes to men, it is better to listen and learn than to speak and teach."

4) Making the First Call
"If you make the first call, you show interest and make him change his approach to pursuing you, because it is easier now. The phone call has told him that already."

5) Introducing Him to Your Loved Ones Too Soon
"He could put on a show to make them adore him so they encourage you to keep him. Don't fall for the trick unless the dog likes him too!"

6) Telling Your Kids That He's Their Uncle
"Then letting them see their uncle walk out of the bedroom with you half naked. Will leave your kids saying, 'You are not my daddy.'"

7) Not Asking Enough Questions
"Get out the shovel and dig deep for the things that he doesn't want you to know. I beg you to collect as much information as you possibly can...get answers!"

8) Falling for Material Things
"All of us, at one time or another, have borrowed someone else's car; that could have been his day to borrow the car. Treat every day like it is April Fool's Day, until you find out the truth."

9) Letting Him Know Where You Live Too Soon
"When you discover you don't want to see him anymore, it is not as easy as you think to get rid of him, because he has too much information."

10) Taking the Relationship Further When You Know You Don't Want Him
"If dating isn't fun, the marriage surely won't be. If you know that you don't like him, tell him up front."

From How to Duck A Suckah: A Guide to Living a Drama-Free Life by Big Boom
Fireside Books/Simon & Schuster Trade Paperback Original; February 2008; $15.00; 1-4165-4653-7